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Understanding the Impact of Attachment Wounds

by on Monday, May 31st, 2021

attachment woundsHumans naturally form bonds with those closest to them when they are younger, such as caregivers. However, stress, broken trust, or other adverse experiences within the relationship can cause what is known as attachment wounds. Unhealed attachment wounds can wreak havoc on a person’s personal life and interpersonal relationships even years after the trauma or instability occurred. By understanding what attachment wounds are and how to heal them, avoided traumas can be healed, and peace can be brought to those struggling.

4 Styles of Attachment

To understand the impact of attachment wounds, it is first essential to identify the four attachment styles. Each style is different, but they can impact your life in similar ways:

  • Secure Attachment: Individuals that are securely attached tend to experience less depression and anxiety. They are confident in their relationships and typically act more independently as those around them appropriately support them.
  • Anxious Preoccupied Attachment: Individuals who experience anxious attachment are more insecure in relationships, often unsure how they are supposed to feel. They don’t trust easily due to fear of the person leaving, but they long for someone to come and save them.
  • Dismissive Avoidant Attachment: Individuals with dismissive avoidant attachment often come across as independent, unemotional, and distant in their relationships. These individuals were taught in childhood that they could only rely on themselves, so they have difficulties trusting others in close relationships.
  • Fearful Avoidant Attachment: Individuals with the fearful-avoidant attachment style hold their feelings inside because they don’t want to bother others but often end up overwhelming themselves with symptoms of anxiety and depression due to these suppressed thoughts. They bounce between being too distant and too close, which typically negatively impacts their relationships.

Impact of Attachment Wounds

Unresolved trauma can result in attachment wounds, which can have several adverse effects on interpersonal relationships. Expected consequences include low self-esteem, depression, separation anxiety, and unusual independence. Some individuals also experience intimacy disorders, sex addiction, love addiction, and various relationship issues. Going to treatment to heal your trauma is the best way to resolve these issues and get you back on track to the life you’ve always wanted to live.

Attachment wounds can be difficult to heal as most people avoid discussing previous traumas. However, learning how to communicate your pain openly and what needs are not being met is the best way to navigate healthy relationships. If you are currently struggling with unresolved trauma and attachment wounds, contact Restorations Therapy. Our staff specializes in intimacy disorders, relationship issues, mental health problems, and addiction recovery. Through our personalized programs, we can help you find the healing that you are longing for. Call us today at (720) 446-6585 to get started.

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