by Kyle Beard on Thursday, May 7th, 2015
Those who struggle with addiction often seek a quick fix to ending their unhealthy behaviors. The American culture in general perpetuates a belief in immediate gratification, and this belief infiltrates the very core of our being. After living in addiction for years, changing a life span of unhealthy routines, thoughts, and actions takes time; no quick fix exists. Some programs advertise 30 day programs to develop true recovery from sexual addiction. It’s a lie. I will say again, a quick fix does not exist.
True recovery begins by shifting the lens through which we view ourselves and the world around us. Ceasing to act out sexuality encapsulates phase one of the recovery process. The second phase of recovery involves awareness and modification of one’s motivation behind the original actions that lead to the addiction. The essence of true recovery involves changing the basic core of how you live by addressing the motivations and thoughts that lie underneath the actions.
Avoidance is one of the hallmark traits of addiction. For example, if I believe that any task, situation, or conversation will be difficult and uncomfortable, I will avoid it with x, y, or z. This avoidant type of interaction manifests from a deep rooted belief that if I evade the situation it will simple go away. This belief is rooted deep into one’s worldview if it has been acted upon throughout the lifetime. Authentic recovery embodies the slow change of these beliefs, ranging from self confidence, perspective of others, work ethic, and more.
I will be the first one to admit, true recovery is a difficult journey. Facing one’s demons takes strength, courage, and a knowledgable guide to help along the way. The Hero’s Journey is what’s before you. The journey involves difficulties, trials, failures, and triumphs, and will most likely be the most difficult journey in your life. From one who has walked the path, faced the demons, and found freedom on the other side, I say this will confidence,