by Kyle Beard on Tuesday, October 15th, 2019
Childbirth may be a beautiful experience for some, but a traumatic experience to others. There is a stigma that we are supposed to feel happy and full of joy after giving birth instead of other feelings like anger or fear. It is important to reach out and speak to someone about how you feel after giving birth to avoid how your behavior will affect your child.
There are a lot of factors that come into play when it comes to giving birth. It can be the length of time you were in labor, use of pain medications, the type of delivery, etc. You may have also had it where things were going fine in labor until something unexpected happened to the baby while in the womb and had to have a c-section. The whole experience could have been overwhelming to you or dangerous if the anesthesia failed, the baby was in danger, or you had a life-threatening complication. Even if these experiences are common to a lot of women, that does not make them less scary.
You could be resenting the people around you as a result of this traumatic birth. You may have wished that they could have done more to protect you when things went wrong when giving birth. You could also feel like no one wants to hear about your pregnancy story because it is too hard to hear. Your isolation could intensify if people are ignoring or dismissing your trauma. This trauma can also affect how you feel towards your baby as you could be feeling numb towards him or her instead of happiness. You may also feel disconnected from your baby after months, especially if your baby has to be away from you in another part of the hospital because of health complications.
It is best to process your emotions by talking to others who have been through what you have been through whether it is online or in person. This will help you feel less alone. You can also write down your experience in a notebook so that you can transfer this story from your mind to paper. You can also get to know your baby by gradually being able to hold him or her in your arms. Being open about your traumatic birth will help mend any psychological wounds.
Located in Centennial, Colorado, Restoration Therapy works with patients who are struggling with addiction, intimacy disorders, and trauma who are seeking treatment. In order to offer patients a more holistic view on healthy sexuality, Restoration Therapy offers individualized and group therapy, workshops, psycho-educational classes, and more to restore the harm brought on by addiction and intimacy issues. For more information, please call us at (720) 446-6585 as we are open Monday through Friday from 8 a.m. to 8 p.m.