by Kyle Beard on Thursday, January 9th, 2020
The Myer-Briggs Personality test determines your personality type and how you perceive the world as well as what career you could have. This test can also determine relationship hurdles that every personality type faces. While you may not be able to control everything about your personality, you can still try to control how you handle your romantic relationships to ensure it becomes a lasting one.
People with ISFJ personalities deal with issues like stating what you want. They want their relationship to be stable, but they fail to express their own needs. When you are in a real relationship, it is important to know that asking for what you want will not be burdensome to your partner. You may be hoping that your concerns will just naturally come out, but you cannot just wait for them to or you will feel unsatisfied in your relationship.
ESFJs tends to take things personally. It can be little things like if your partner has been working late at night or they make a comment about the way you look. ESFJs tend to think that there is an ulterior motive to everything. You should be able to trust that your partner is not thinking the worst of you and that there must be a good reason why they are coming home late. If something is bothering you, speak to your partner about it instead of keeping it all inside. Have faith that your partner loves you and that your fears are unnecessary.
ISTJs tend to think too realistically that they do not leave room for romance. If you want to spend some time alone with your partner, there is nothing wrong with coming up with romantic gestures. You may think that buying flowers or saying “I love you” to your partner is impractical, but your partner will still appreciate those things. Everyone enjoys a spark in their relationship. Never be afraid to show it.
ESTJs have a lot of feelings, but tend to put up a front that they do not feel anything. Your partner cannot read your mind and would rather you tell them what you are feeling. If you do not express a need, then the chances are that you will not get what you are seeking. Stop pretending that everything is fine and address how you are feeling. Think about what is worth sharing with your partner and you will notice positive changes that you will be happy with in your relationship.
ISFPs hold back in order to protect themselves. You do not want to show off vulnerability so you would rather pull away from the relationship yourself. You do not want to get rejected or see someone walk away from you which makes you be the first to destroy the relationship. Do not be so quick to end things when you experience vulnerable moments in your relationship. Do not assume that your partner will leave you and to end it yourself to avoid getting hurt. The end of a relationship hurts no matter who ends it.
ESTPs love relationships when everything is going right. If there are any feelings of hurt or guilt, you feel like running away. These feelings are too intense for you to handle. Instead of being quick to run away, find the urge to stay. If you feel like you and your partner are experiencing negatively intense moments, speak to your partner about it as this may help you move closer to each other. Being quick to run away will cause you to miss out on what could be a great relationship.
ENFJs want to be the best partner. This can mean making sure to make breakfast when their partner wakes up, planning a romantic getaway, etc. You love doing things for your partner, but you also feel overwhelmed at the same time trying to be perfect. It is important to relax and just breathe because no one is perfect. If you need something, just ask. If you feel tired, take a breather. Just be real with your partner instead of being someone you are not.
INTJs have trouble with the unknown. You do not want to commit to a relationship until you know for sure that it will work out. You feel like you always need reminders from your partner that your relationship is the real deal. It is best to accept the unknown. No one truly knows how long their relationship will last. Do not force your partner to make a decision about how long your relationship will be or it will lead to future problems. Just let your relationship take its natural time.
ENTJs have specific standards in a relationship. They have their own opinions about work, relationships, and life itself. If you are not careful, you could end up controlling your partner. This means telling them where to eat, who you socialize with, and how you spend your free time. Let your partner be their own person and honor their wishes instead of pressuring them. Each personality type has their own romantic problems, but also their own solutions.
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