by Restorations Therapy Center on Tuesday, May 19th, 2020
Self-talk is our inner monologue, our inner voice, and how we talk to ourselves, much like a constant running dialogue inside of our heads. You may not even be aware that you are talking to yourself inside of your head, but it is something that we all do. This dialogue may involve instructing ourselves during a task, observing random things in our environment, or situations, or it may merely be self-talk. Self-talk is crucial to our wellbeing and has a profound impact on how we feel and what we do. Self-talk may be positive or negative, and being mindful of which way you talk to yourself helps you make changes within yourself that positively affect your mental wellbeing.
If your inner monologue is negative, and you put yourself down, you will feel bad about yourself in turn. Thus, if you’re feeling depressed, these negative thoughts about yourself make it even harder for you to pick yourself back up. Our brains are also hardwired to recall negative experiences over the positive ones. Conversely, if your inner voice is positive, you will feel good about yourself, and reap the benefits of positive self-talk, such as:
Since self-talk, whether positive or negative, is a part of us, it may take months to change the habits that our minds develop.
To try and stop negative self-talk, try these tips:
Positive self-talk involves showing yourself compassion, love, and understanding of what you have been through and who you are. Our internal dialogue when it is positive involves thoughts such as “I can do this,” or “I can learn from my mistakes.” Furthermore, you may improve your positive self-talk by doing the following:
Furthermore, the benefits of positive self-talk include:
No one has the same positive self-talk strategies, so it is crucial to practice different approaches and find ones that work for you. Some examples of phrases you may use to begin practicing positive self-talk include:
Psychologically, researchers theorize self-talk as a mix of unconscious and conscious biases and beliefs that we have about ourselves and the world in general. Sigmund Freud came up with the idea that everyone has unconscious and conscious levels of thought in which our unconscious thoughts influence our behavior, and we don’t even realize it is happening. Research points to the fact that positive self-talk helps promote behavioral changes such as combatting depression and anxiety, overcoming body dysmorphic disorder, and even losing weight. Negative self-talk may even directly relate to psychological issues such as aggression and post-traumatic stress disorder.
Negative self-talk can lead to dangerous paths in our lives, such as substance misuse, to self-medicate the negative thoughts away. Thus, negative self-talk may lead to substance use disorders (SUDs). Positive self-talk is a way to reframe how you view things and situations in your life. Furthermore, it helps you approach life with a “can do” attitude that you got this, and if things don’t go well, you will learn from life’s challenges and do your best in every situation. Believing in yourself is a powerful tool in leading a fulfilling life. If you are seeking help improving your self-talk, call us today at (720) 446-6585.