by Restorations Therapy Center on Wednesday, May 12th, 2021
Communication is a part of your everyday life, so learning how to do so effectively can help you boost your interpersonal relationships. Communication is especially important for romantic relationships, as it will help you sort out misunderstandings, confusion, and other relationship conflicts. Poor communication can lead to further anger and can put a strain on the relationships. Consider these tips to help you begin effectively communicating with your partner.
It is all too easy to ignore what another person is saying because you are so focused on how you will respond. This can cause you to miss essential points your partner is making. By listening to understand, you can begin to see where your partner is coming from and acknowledge their point of view. When you do this, it will save you many further disagreements down the road.
When you argue with your partner, you may be tempted to bring up past conflicts that are seemingly related to the discussion at hand. However, this can do more harm than good, as it takes the argument away from the current issue and begins focusing on past pains and other topics, often resulting in more confusion and anger. Stick to the issue at hand and work to solve it rather than bringing up past arguments.
Arguments can often cause people to play the blame game, where they point out the other person’s faults and wrongdoings without expressing themselves or taking into account what they may have done wrong as well. Instead of saying, “You went to the movies without me, and it hurt,” try saying, “I feel excluded when you go without me because I want to spend time with you.” Using “I” statements can reveal the deeper issue and help your partner understand your point of view.
Have you ever heard the statement, “Don’t go to bed angry”? It is a classic piece of relationship advice given, but it actually does more harm than good. Sometimes, taking a break during a conflict can help you both regain the right headspace and allow you to cool down before further words are exchanged. If you both are arguing and getting nowhere, consider taking a break and regrouping later. It has more benefits than you may believe.
Communication is crucial for a relationship to flourish. However, it is essential to make sure that you communicate with your partner in the most effective way possible. If you find yourselves still bickering over little things that turn into more significant arguments, Restorations Therapy is here to help. We offer couples therapy to work with both partners to examine the cycles of hurt currently at play in the relationship. Over time, we can help both parties heal from mental health issues, underlying trauma, substance abuse issues, and whatever else may be impacting the relationship. Call us today to learn more at (720) 446-6585.