by Restorations Therapy Center on Thursday, May 13th, 2021
In today’s world of technology and constant virtual connection, many people have lost the importance of cultivating a healthy relationship. Modern romance can be challenging to navigate, primarily because of how social media places pressures on relationships. A person’s photos can only show part of the story, yet so many individuals compare themselves to strangers online.
Knowing how to cultivate your own healthy relationship with your partner can help you fight against toxic behaviors and expectations that may arise from modern romance expectations and pressures. Take your own path and focus on your growth in the relationship.
While each relationship is different, many of the problems that couples face are generally similar. You and your partner may disagree on religion; one person may not want to get married, there may be a significant age gap between you both, one person may want children while the other doesn’t, and many more. The problems that arise in the beginning or that you simply ignore because “it doesn’t matter now” are the very issues that will come back and cause the most damage later on. This is why it is crucial to learn how to identify these common problems, as the two of you can begin to talk through them together calmly and respectfully.
However, you should realize that some of your partner’s flaws may result from underlying issues; this can be difficult to cope with but not impossible.
There will be times in relationships when the problems occurring between the two partners are stemming from an underlying issue within one individual. This can sometimes point to mental health issues, a substance abuse problem, an intimacy disorder, trauma, etc.
While it can be challenging to go through trying times with your partner, it is vital to provide support as long as you are also taking care of your wellbeing. Addressing these issues can bring the two of you closer together and facilitate healing. Still, you need to be open to the possibility of your partner or yourself needing further help. Once you have healed the underlying issues, the two of you can begin working on cultivating a happy, healthy relationship.
Many people go into relationships thinking they can change the other person or change themselves to be what the other person wants. If you are naturally an introvert and enjoy quiet nights at home, but your partner enjoys time out with friends, you may believe that you can keep up with their wants and be someone you are not. However, this will often lead to identity issues and growing resentment towards your partner and yourself. Staying true to yourself and dating someone that accepts you for who you are is the best way to have a healthy relationship.
Whether the relationship is new or you have been together for years, dishonesty can sabotage a relationship. You cannot build a relationship on untruthfulness, and the cracks will begin showing sooner or later. This doesn’t even pertain to big lies such as affairs, but more minor fibs too. Telling your partner you love action movies when you actually can’t stand them will lead to resentment on your part and result in them being hurt because you didn’t tell them the truth. Being honest from the start will allow your relationship to flourish.
The key to a healthy relationship is communication. This doesn’t mean you need to be in constant contact with each other or know what each other is doing every second of the day, but instead being ready and willing to discuss confusion, misunderstandings, and other topics in the relationship without hesitation. Being able to discuss things honestly and openly without fear of the other person lashing out can lead to a growing healthy relationship. It’s okay if you need time to cool down, but taking the time to discuss the problems at hand will allow you to grow together and become closer in the relationship.
Many people believe that setting boundaries and upholding them, especially with those closest to them, is unkind and can come across as rude. However, boundaries are needed in any functioning, healthy relationship. Just as you would set boundaries with a toxic family member, you also need to set boundaries with those closest to you. For example, if your partner wants to spend time with you every night but you need some alone time, don’t be afraid to talk to them about it and set that boundary. With mutual trust and understanding, boundaries should be healthy barriers that keep your relationship going.
Cultivating healthy relationships in the era of social media and constant virtual interactions can be challenging to navigate. This is why healthy relationship education is essential, especially for those that aren’t sure what a healthy relationship looks like. Being able to identify problems, support your partner through tough times, be honest with each other, communicate, and set boundaries are excellent ways of cultivating a healthy relationship. If you are still unsure how to go about this or require help in your relationship, contact Restorations Therapy today. Our program works with individuals and couples to help them work through any present problems in their relationship and guide them on how to improve their relationship. We also help with recovery from mental health, substance abuse, trauma, intimacy disorders, and more. If you are struggling, Restorations Therapy has got you covered. Call (720) 446-6585 today and start your path to healing and healthy relationships.