by Kyle Beard on Tuesday, October 1st, 2019
It is possible you are going through a divorce because your spouse could not handle your addiction. Divorce may not help you realize that you need to get clean, but can cause your addiction to spiral more from the stress. In order to get through the stress of your divorce, you need to understand that drugs and alcohol are not the answer and that you need to go to treatment instead.
Addiction can lead you to do things that can anger your partner such as overspending, impaired judgment, neglecting your partner, impaired judgment, and domestic violence, or sometimes domestic violence or child abuse. Addiction can actually affect divorce proceedings such as losing custody to your child if your addiction is not under control. It can also affect whether or not you have to be the one to move out of your home. Remember that communication is still important for you and your ex-spouse to have no matter how much animosity there is towards you too. Your ex-partner should be helping you get help so that you can continue to be a better parent towards your kids.
Drugs and alcohol may seem wise as a coping mechanism to divorce depression and stress. These abusive substances will not make you feel better in the long run, but will make you feel even more depressed. One of the best ways to overcome stress is to exercise by going to the gym or running. This will help you release those feel-good endorphins and will be a healthy distraction to your negative feelings. You should also talk to someone about your feelings instead of keeping them inside. This can be from a counselor, psychologist, or a friend who has been through divorce themselves and knows what to do.
Divorce may possibly lead you to relapse. One study showed that stressful life events like separation or divorce can lead those already with alcoholism to relapse. If you are going through a divorce and feel the need to reach for that drug or bottle, call someone like your sponsor or a friend to talk you out of it and give you the strength you need. You can get through troubling times like divorce without feeling the need to abuse substances by reaching out to others, eating and sleeping right, and exercising.
Located in Centennial, Colorado, Restoration Therapy works with patients who are struggling with addiction, intimacy disorders, and trauma who are seeking treatment. In order to offer patients a more holistic view on healthy sexuality, Restoration Therapy offers individualized and group therapy, workshops, psycho-educational classes, and more to restore the harm brought on by addiction and intimacy issues. For more information, please call us at (720) 446-6585 as we are open Monday through Friday from 8 a.m. to 8 p.m.