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Caring for Yourself, Especially When in Therapy

by on Thursday, September 9th, 2021

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We’ve all had people tell us to “have a good day” or “take care” of ourselves, but it has become so commonplace that it’s more often than not an expression taken for granted. Nonetheless, we all need to take care of ourselves, especially with a pandemic still so much a part of our lives. That is often easier said than done, however, and it can be even more challenging for people in therapy.

What Is Self-Love?

Self-love consists of four parts, including self-awareness, self-worth, self-esteem, and self-care. If even one of these is missing, it is impossible to have complete self-love. You can see how that can make it difficult for people in therapy to have true self-love, especially treatment for drug or alcohol addiction. In turn, that can make caring for oneself a tough thing to achieve.

Having self-esteem and practicing self-love is not akin to being narcissistic. Because this can sometimes be misunderstood, some people may have difficulty doing things for themselves and putting their own needs ahead of others. 

However, it’s important for everyone to understand they are worthy of happiness and respect and that it’s okay, in some cases even critical, to set boundaries and say no when they need to. While it’s natural to want to be liked by others, it’s not necessary to be a people-pleaser all the time.

Ways to Practice Self-Love

Practicing self-love can be as basic as eating healthy foods, getting plenty of sleep, exercising, spending time with others, or doing things we enjoy. Other things like feeling good about ourselves and learning to forgive ourselves can be more challenging, but they’re still important when practicing self-love. 

Self-love also includes getting rid of negative influences in our lives. That might mean disengaging from social media that often has enough negativity to fill a lifetime. If you want to remain on social media, focus only on those sites that are positive and uplifting or that make you happy or inspired. 

You may also want to delete apps from social media or your cell phone that are distractions from doing things that are productive and self-affirming. That doesn’t mean, for instance, you can’t play games that you enjoy. It means that you are smart enough to recognize what’s beneficial and what eats away time and possibly self-worth. 

Little Things You Can Start Today

Developing ways to practice self-love can sometimes take a little bit of work, and some may be harder to achieve than others, but you need to start somewhere. Why not start with easier ones and work up to those that may be more challenging?

  • Do at least one thing that you enjoy every day. It may be taking time to be lazy or indulging in a guilty pleasure, like watching a favorite show or taking a nap in the middle of the afternoon. It’s not important what it is, only that you allow yourself to do it.
  • Embrace your inner child by coloring or doing a “paint by numbers.” You could also work on a model car or airplane or even play with Legos or building blocks. Whatever you enjoyed doing as a kid, allow yourself to indulge in it again as an adult.
  • Allow yourself to daydream. Remember how much fun that was as a kid and how good you felt doing it. Why not spend some time as an adult daydreaming? Get those good vibes back once again.
  • Whether in your neighborhood, on a local trail, or through a favorite park, take a walk. If you’ve got a dog or dogs, take them along. Pay close attention to the sights, sounds, and smells on your walk that you might otherwise take for granted.
  • Write down all the things you like about yourself, no matter how small or insignificant they may seem.  
  • Make time for family and friends who make you feel happy and uplifted. By the same token, if there are people in your life who no longer are a positive influence or who you’ve grown apart from, give yourself the courage to let them go. Relationships aren’t always meant to last a lifetime. By removing negative influences in your life, you’ll be amazed at how strong you’ll feel. 
  • Find a cause that you’re passionate about and volunteer with a group that focuses on that same passion. You’ll not only feel good doing something you love, but you’ll also be making a difference for someone and benefitting your community at the same time.

These are only a few things you can do, but they may be some of the easiest places to start. The more you allow yourself to do these kinds of things, the better you’ll feel about yourself. 

Finally, if you’re not already in therapy, but you feel you might need to speak with a professional about things going on in your life, take the reins and schedule an appointment with a licensed therapist. 

There are many sources of negativity and depressing things in this world. We only have to follow the news to see countless examples of it. While there is no way to avoid it all, it is important to balance those things you can’t avoid with positive, happy things — things that make us feel good about ourselves, even empowered. One of those things might be talking with a therapist. At Restorations Therapy, we have licensed, professional counselors available to help you or your loved one manage feelings and find a balance. That is important because many people do not know how to practice self-love or care for themselves as much as they care for others. At Restorations Therapy, we will help develop a personalized care plan tailored specifically for you or your loved one’s needs. Call us today at (720) 446-6585 to see how we can help you or your loved one. 

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