by Restorations Therapy Center on Saturday, January 9th, 2021
Many individuals struggling with addiction find themselves in a victim mentality, whether they realize it or not. A victim mentality allows the person to continue using drugs or alcohol without taking responsibility for their actions. They blame the negative consequences of their addiction on other people or external circumstances, so they don’t have to face themselves in the mirror. Learning how to recognize victim mentality within yourself can help you work towards ridding yourself of that mentality and adopting a mindset centered around growth instead.
According to the Merriam Webster Dictionary, “victim mentality” refers to “the belief that one is always the victim: the idea that bad things will always happen to one.” Many people struggling with addiction do not want to face the fact that their addiction is damaging their life, resulting in a victim mentality. Instead, they often shift the blame towards others in their life, causing the relationships to erode. They may also blame it on external circumstances, claiming that their life just isn’t fair, and that’s why bad things happen to them, not because of their addiction.
It is essential to break yourself away from a victim mentality and instead accept a growth mindset to achieve recovery. There are various ways to do this, but one of your main priorities should be learning to take responsibility for your mistakes. Own up to what you did and apologize for it. Remember that there shouldn’t be a “but” in your apology. Make amends and move on.
Another way you can escape from victim mentality is to change your response to negative occurrences in your life. Instead of focusing on yourself as a victim, when something terrible happens, consider how others may be feeling and what caused it to happen. From there, you can take the necessary steps to make things right. You will find that as you move farther away from a victim mentality and into a mindset conducive to your growth, your recovery will progress that much more.
Victim mentalities enable addiction; they allow the person to continue on their path without accepting responsibility for their actions. When something negative happens due to one’s addiction, the person will often blame it on someone else or an external circumstance. In recovery, you must learn how to break free from this mindset. If you are confused about how to start, contact the team at Restorations Therapy. We have years of experience helping our clients heal from addiction and co-occurring disorders. Together we can get you away from a victim mindset and move into a healing mentality. Call Restorations Therapy today at (720) 446-6585.